I need some objective opinions

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2004
I need some objective opinions
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Fri, 07-23-2004 - 12:01pm
My husband and I have been married for nine years. He has had numerous business ventures, none of which have been profitable. I have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Fibromyalgia and Degenerative Disk Disease. I had been working full time supporting the family until last February, when we both agreed that I would quit my job and apply for company disability. My husband assured me that he would get a job to support us....well, he didn't.

I have gone through all of my company savings plan money and used a home equity loan to pay bills. My doctors and I are fighting my company for my disability payments at this time.

My husband's partner is in another state. He will tell me in the afternoon that he needs to go to a meeting and will be back at 10:00 the next morning. He will come back two or three days later. He does this almost every week. On top of that, we are out of money and have no income.He thinks he doesn't do anything wrong and is justified because he's trying to make money. I want him to look in the classifieds and get a real job.

Our house is in my name only. I think I should divorce him, but I am sick and can't work. On top of that, my car died last October, so I have no transportation. I am stuck in the house. My daughter who is 22 is moving out on August 1 to get an apartment with a friend about an hour away, and my mom died in April.

I feel trapped. I sit in my house by myself with no car to go anywhere and no money to do anything.....I hate to give up my quest for my disability benefits, and am afraid that if I do get a job, I'll be too sick to stay.

I don't know where to turn.....please help!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-26-2003
Fri, 07-23-2004 - 3:25pm

I must ask if your husband ever has a job, you made it soundlike he never did...


Have you looked into liquidating your assests to offset the debt?Or call any non profit organizations to settel some debt for you?I know that this may not be all that much help, but its worth looking into, at least while you wait to hear from the disabilty suit.


IN the long run, when it comes down to it...your husband hasnt been very supportive. God forbid something happens again in the future, will he be suportive then and do what needs to be done?Probably not.


Best wishes to you,