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i need a womans advice
| Sun, 05-16-2004 - 5:41pm |
i have a problem knowing when my gf wants sex. i find that my gf is the one that always initiates sex and at the moment i seem to miss read the signals she puts out for me to initiate sex. we have a busy household with two teenagers and we find ourselves restricted to the bedroom. at the moment we have both stoopped drinking as much as we used to and the sex has become less frequent. but just lately our sex life has started to become more frequent with no alchol and we both feel like first timers at sex. we have been together for 1 year and this problem has only existed over the past month.
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Anyway, there are many times where I want sex but I don't want to just say straight out, "Hey, I want sex tonite." Cuz, well, that just seems to take the excitement out of it. So I do things like I'll start to strip in front of him and I'll head into the bathroom clearly indicating that I'm going to take a 'nice HOT shower'. I light candles and I stay in that shower for up to a half an hour. He doesn't get it. I finally come out and there he is lying in bed watching tv. Other times I snuggle up to him wearing something sexy or I'll just try being sexy by the way I lie next to him or whatever. He still doesn't seem to catch on. It is very frustrating. I've learned that I just cannot be subtle. I have to be more aggressive and yes it makes it seem like I am then initiating sex.
Now, for you, try paying attention to what she wears to bed, her behavior once the door is closed and locked, how is she acting toward you? It shouldn't be that difficult to figure out at all if you know to pay special attention. And another thing, why not just initiate even if you haven't seen any signals from her? Worst thing she can do is say she's not in the mood. There isn't much more you can do outside of that. The rest is up to her in the way of communication. (ooh I just had a braistorm I and I think I'll try this idea with my man too...) Anyway, try talking about it with her and perhaps think up a private sexy little code to let the other know that they want sex but don't want to initiate. Perhaps a little phrase or something.
Jennifer
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Or take her for a walk away from the kids and have a conversation about what kinds of signals you both send and how to read them. When I do this, it means X. When I say this, it means X. etc.
Carrie