I Really Need Advice!

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Registered: 01-19-2008
I Really Need Advice!
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Mon, 03-10-2008 - 4:15pm

I just want to know if i'm the one freaking out for nothing or is it my boyfriend that was wrong? Last night I got up and went to do some laundry for my boyfriend because he was working this morning, I came back and he was on his computer chatting with this girl I don't even know but I know he had sex with and he was saying she was hot on her display pic (ok that's fine I guess) he closed the window, she worte back saying ok I sent the pics. I ask my boyfriend what did she send you, show me right now if she didn't sent you over the computer there's something. He went on his hotmail and I said just delete the message don,t look at it! And he still opened the message and deleted AFTER. Ok on the pics, she had a bikini top with a pair of jeans and some gun posing all sexy, I freaked out cause who wouldn't well I think? I was mad and hurt and he was mad he was saying I always freak out for nothing, that she wasn't naked and stuff, but why did he hide it? He knew it wasn't right or I donno? Anyways I really need some advice on this...Thanks

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Mon, 03-10-2008 - 5:47pm

Welcome to the board goddess_steph16,


In my opinion, you have every right to be upset. He was chatting with some girl you know he had sex with, plus she was sending him pics, and he was trying to hide it all from you. Him trying to hide it shows that he knows he was wrong.


Let

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 03-10-2008 - 5:55pm

Welcome to the board goddess_steph16,


She's not naked?

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Registered: 03-06-2008
Tue, 03-11-2008 - 9:36am

Well, Steph, I think that you do have a problem and yes, it is your boyfriend in the wrong.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Tue, 03-11-2008 - 6:50pm

Has he done this before? If so, is this how you usually react?

There has to come a point when you realize that this guy is not going to change his behavior because he just doesn't think he's wrong. Freaking out every time he does this accomplishes absolutely nothing. It teaches him that you are going to tolerate it at the small cost of being angry for a while.

It's time to come to terms with the fact that this is what he wants to do, knowing that it hurts your feelings. You can either accept that or go.

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Registered: 01-19-2008
Tue, 03-18-2008 - 11:12pm
Just wanted to say I really appreciate taking the time posting on here thanks! So yea, I talked to him and he said, he just wanted to see her display pic and she sent him more pics and he didn't know....he thought she was just going to send him that one picture of her which I saw and wasnt nothing too bad cause it was on her display pic anyways...
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Registered: 02-20-2007
Wed, 03-19-2008 - 7:22am
Does knowing that make things better for you?