i really need answers

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Registered: 11-19-2006
i really need answers
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Tue, 07-17-2007 - 9:02pm

i really need some answers if someone would please respond

what keeps two people together?????? What makes a man want to be with someone else????

im having trouble believing my fiance will be in love with me forever.

I know that if he meets certain people he will leave me for them because they are prettier and better than me...

please help withh this situation

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Wed, 07-18-2007 - 12:25am

Nikkit, you've asked these same questions of us many times. And each time we suggest that you need to work on your own self esteem.

What pro-active steps have you taken since the last time you asked these questions?

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Registered: 06-05-2007
Wed, 07-18-2007 - 5:12pm

what keeps two people together?????? all kinds of things, but mostly they both just continue to stay together and assure the other person they will continue to do so.

What makes a man want to be with someone else???? this question needs to be refined. be with someone else in what way? i'll assume sexually - they are getting a need met that do not get met somewhere else.

i'll just say that (because i have not read all your other posts the cl refers to) maybe you are having trouble believing because you know he will leave you in the future. i say that because i've been together with someone and the entire time knew they were the type of person that would not stay in a relationship no matter how many times they tried to assure me otherwise. in the end they did leave. did my insecurity about them staying cause them to leave or did they leave because they always leave? all i do know is i did meet someone else that didn't make me feel this way - they made me feel the exact opposite - that they would never leave me, ever. in both cases, i can't tell you why, i just knew.

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Registered: 11-19-2006
Wed, 07-18-2007 - 5:29pm

but he is not the kind of person to just leave someone.

he was married for 9 years before he met me and she cheated on him and treated him bad and he still didnt leave. Of couse they eventually divorced but for obvious reasons. he gives me no reason to feel this way. AHHHHHHHh!

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Registered: 06-05-2007
Wed, 07-18-2007 - 8:34pm
i guess it is like others have told you - you should spend time getting to know yourself better and understanding your feelings better.