I REALLY NEED HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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| Wed, 07-04-2007 - 9:33pm |
I've been with my boyfriend for two years and about a week ago he told me that he wanted to take some time off from our relationship because he was "getting tired of the relationship thing and he needs his space". I asked him if this had something to do with me or the relationship and he said 'no, actually I've been very good to him and that I'm the best girlfriend he's ever had" (but this is coming from someone who said that he's tired of the relationship thing) and he "just wants us to take some time off because he doesn't want to loose me all together." He told me that sometimes he wants to be in a relationship and sometimes he doesn't because 3 out of his 4 friends aren't committed to a relationship; this is very immature of him. He's told me time and time again that he still loves me and that he still cares for me, he just needs his space right now. I've asked him if he's wanting to see other people and naturally he said 'no, I don't want to be with anyone because I'm tired of being in a relationship." He still has his things at my apartment and has not made the effort to come back and get them. When I went to his place to get my things, he only gave me a pair of my shorts, my comb and brush and my toothbrush; have in mind he has a HUGE picture of me on his nightstand, some of my clothing and underwear and jewelry that he refused to give me back). We don't talk to each other much and when we do the conversations are short. I told him that if there's a possibility that we'd get back together, then it's only right that we talk as friends at least. He said that he knows for a fact that if we talk as friends, he's going to want to do things that friends don't do. Then he went on to tell me that it'd upset him to know that I was having sex with someone else because he knows that it'll hurt me as well to know that he was sleeping with another girl (which for some reason, he keeps making it a point to tell me that he isn't sleeping or seeing anyone).
When asked about the possible outcome of this "broken up and taking space" situation, he says that he "doesn't know what will happen. He might want to get back together but he wouldn't want me waiting around on him if I didn't want to". My heart is telling me that he'll be back sooner than I know but I'm afraid to wait on him because I don't want him to make a fool of me. It's easy for people to tell me what I should and shouldn't do and what they would and wouldn't do because they are not in my situation OR have not yet experienced this. I love this guy very much and things were going so great for us until that day that he told me. This was something he did all of a sudden. Just a few days before he told me, we were sitting at his apartment having a great time and he told me that I am the best girlfriend he's ever had; the reason why he's with me is because he loves the way I treat him and how I care for him.
My mother says that I should stop calling him and that he'll come back to me; she told me that sometimes when he calls, don't even pick up the phone. It's a hard thing to do but I've begun to do just that.
If he doesn't want to loose me, then why is he doing this? Does this mean that we'll get back together or does this mean that he doesn't want to be with me anymore? Or is he playing mind games?

something is bothering him or hes been talking to someone...
im not sure what it is.. but my bf has said this to me before too..but he came back the next day..he couldnt leave me alone. but at the same time he wanted some space between us because he "wasnt sure if he wanted to be in a relationship with me." even after a million times he let me know how much he loves me.
were still together til' this day. this problem hasnt been a issue for about a year now.
Welcome to the board alexisluvada,
Your mother is right.