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I really need some advice
| Sat, 05-01-2004 - 6:47pm |
I was with my boyfriend for 7 years. he has two children that he recently found (because their mother left with them some time ago). I am currently pregnant with my first child and it is with him. He found out that his children are living in a babd situation and asked that he bring them(12yr old twins) here to live with us. I admit, my first instinct was to run and that is what I first attempted to do and while I still have many concerns, I realized that the relationship we have/had is strong and went to him to apologize and advise him that I would like to give this (entire) family a try. HE decided that I was not sincere in my telling him that I wanted to now have his children come live with us and in turn has moved out of state. We talk almost everyday and he has even come to visit me since then. I have plans to go and visit him this month as well. We talk constantly about what will happen if we get back together. He claims he is scared because he does not know if he can trust that I mean it when I say that I want a family with him. He said he even wanted to marry me but I am afraid that he will never learn to love me that much again. I want to be able to move on without him if that is what he wants but he won't give me an answer as to whether or not he wants to try or not. He has told me that he wants all of us to be together but something is stopping him from making up his mind to take that leap. I don't know what to do or say anymore... PLEASE HELP

i think you both need to put your own feelings aside for a moment, and think about what is best for these three kids (his twins and your baby). he can't just 'walk away' from this responsibility - but i am guessing he is feeling overwhelmed with all of this just now. i would suggest some outside professional help so that you can work out what's best for all. i would also suggest you speak to a lawyer about child support and custody.
good luck
Edited 5/3/2004 12:35 am ET ET by camille92574