I think this is the beginning of the end.......

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Registered: 11-14-2006
I think this is the beginning of the end.......
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Thu, 08-18-2011 - 10:14pm

Hubby and I always agreed that we'd never let his son (13 yrs) from a previous marriage come between us. That all changed tonight. Hubby has "suddenly" decided to make SEVERE changes to the visitation schedule that I am NOT ok with. He won't budge and has given me nothing but ultimatums and firm statements that it is his WAY or nothing. I am left with no options. I won't be TOLD how I am going to live my life. We agreed that we'd work "together" on how often the kid visits, etc. Hubby has decided he wants more and is completely dis-regarding my feelings all together. He is actually disregarding me and our marriage all together. It has come down to it being either his way or we are through....or at least that is where it is going. I told him we should TALK about what we can do to find a way for us to both be happy with the situation. He will NOT discuss it. He says there is NO negotiation.

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Thu, 08-18-2011 - 11:53pm

I'm sorry you're going thru this, but I'm also sure that this isn't the FIRST time in 5 years that it's been "his way or the highway".

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Fri, 08-19-2011 - 12:37am

Hi Elfling, welcome to the board.

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Fri, 08-19-2011 - 8:45am

"Hubby and I always agreed that we'd never let his son (13 yrs) from a previous marriage come between us.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 08-19-2011 - 10:53am

It definitely sounds like you don't like your DSS and you look at his being around more often as an imposition on you.

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Registered: 10-03-2007
Fri, 08-19-2011 - 11:01am
When there is a choice between man/woman and a child, the child wins, no matter what especially if the parents are divorced. I have been married and divorced twice. My kids visit their dad .The new wife of my second husband didnt like it but oh well, who cares.She married knowing that my ex had kids .My ex is good with kids.
Your attitude seems to be that your husband should be just yours and should not do his fatherly duties.You are wrong and have been proven so by your husband.Live with it.
Bringing up kids is not easy.If you cant be atleast decent to the child, divorce.