i think he's busted!

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Registered: 01-18-2004
i think he's busted!
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Fri, 06-18-2004 - 2:19pm
well i've been marrie for almost 2 years dated for 9 yrs. He cheated on my when we were dating with an older woman and i forgave him then. Now his cell phone bill does not come to my house it goes to his mother's house, when i confronted him about that he could not belive that I did not trust him.....Then lately he's always tired never in the mood to have sex I mean there are times when we don't have sex for 3 weeks...I know he's tired he works three jobs but I work too...We don't have children so there's no excuse...at least once a week he goes out with co-workers and comes home at 4am....Now I found lipstick on the collars of his shirt!!!!!!!!!! What do I think? Is he cheating???????? Please help
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Registered: 09-26-2003
Fri, 06-18-2004 - 4:05pm

Unless he found a new love for lipstick , Id be hesistant to beleive anything he says.....Yo uknow just as well as I, or any other woman for that matter, that you need to get real close to have your lipstick rub off on a shirt.Which makes me question why he was so close to another woman in the first place.


Infedilty is serious and shouldnt be tolerated. As long as you stay mum about this, he will continue to think his actions are okay.


 

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Registered: 01-18-2004
Fri, 06-18-2004 - 7:32pm
I know in my heart that you are right.....I'm so sad inside i feel like dieing....i think that tonight is the night and we shall see what happens, he's not home yet.....what are the chances of this being innocent? I think they are really low!!!!I want to kill him right now,k and I want to know who she is?.....We've only been married 1 and 1/2 years.....It's like our marriage had not even had the chance to blossom and it's already ruined becaue of him and some bimbo......I hate this so much my stomach hurts.....I wish that it was just a nightmare but reality is, that it's not....My reality will soon come to an end
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Registered: 05-31-2003
Fri, 06-18-2004 - 7:49pm
I find it really strange that his cell phone bills are sent to his mothers house. That would be a reg flag if I was in this situation. Hang in there and keep us posted. *hugs*

*Clarissa*

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Fri, 06-18-2004 - 8:02pm
hmm, he's married and his cell phone bill goes to his mom's house? Strange. First red flag.

He comes home at 4am, don't bars close at 2am? So what is he doing for the other 2 hours if he's not cheating?

Sorry you have to go through this. There is a book, when your lover is a liar, you might want to check it out.

Lipstick, that's close, hugging, petting or something. In my area there is a radio host (male) that says 'if he's not having sex with you, he's getting it somewhere else.'

How sad for you.


Carrie