I think my husband is having a mid life crisis

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2011
I think my husband is having a mid life crisis
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Thu, 11-10-2011 - 9:34pm

The past few months of my life have been a nightmare.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2009
Thu, 11-10-2011 - 11:33pm

Until the end of your post, I was thinking that your husband is in a bad place, and I'm sorry for you and your children.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Fri, 11-11-2011 - 1:43am

If his change in behavior mostly happened after his friend died then it could be a midlife crisis brought on by his friends death. A friend his age dying is probably making him face his own mortality big time. But then again if he's gone a lot these days it could also be that he is having an affair and that is why his behavior has changed so drastically. Or it could be both. Would he go to marriage counseling with you?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2011
Fri, 11-11-2011 - 11:12am
  • Recently when I ask him about marriage counseling he just says it's taking all that he has to get through life and deal with his headaches and depression.

    I am just hoping that soon those things will be better and we can move on to that.

  • iVillage Member
    Registered: 05-18-2009
    Fri, 11-11-2011 - 11:35am

    What is he doing to alleviate his depression and headache issues? I imagine going through life with chronic headaches is extremely difficult. I've got an awful sinus headache right now and I'm thinking... Having this all the time would make me impossible to deal with because I'd be angry all the time

    Also, there is no rule that says you have to divorce your in-laws. They are your family, too, and as long as you don't make them choose sides, they are allowed to love you both in separate ways.

    iVillage Member
    Registered: 04-16-2008
    Fri, 11-11-2011 - 2:56pm
    Then i would suggest you and the kids (since they are being affected by his negligence of them) go see a family counselor together. At the least you NEED to go and talk to someone and not go thru this alone. If his family loves you and the kids I doubt they would turn their back on you and the kids in a time of crisis like this.
    iVillage Member
    Registered: 01-13-2010
    Fri, 11-11-2011 - 7:45pm

    iVillage Member
    Registered: 05-20-2009
    Sat, 11-12-2011 - 12:16am

    I replied to you earlier, and I commented on your statement that you have low self esteem.

    iVillage Member
    Registered: 05-04-2009
    Mon, 11-14-2011 - 1:37pm

    Sadinia,

    Iam so sorry you are going through this right now.

    iVillage Member
    Registered: 11-28-1999
    Mon, 11-14-2011 - 4:08pm

    I do feel sorry for the situation you're in now.

    iVillage Member
    Registered: 11-10-2011
    Mon, 11-14-2011 - 9:15pm

    Thank you for all your help and messages.

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