I think we will end in divorce

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Registered: 11-06-2007
I think we will end in divorce
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Wed, 11-07-2007 - 1:49pm

I am so confused.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 11-07-2007 - 2:33pm

Welcome to the board sarahsquiet,


If you continue thinking the marriage will end in divorce than it will. In order for your marriage to work you must want it to work and must be willing to put in the work necessary to make it work.


Do you think your husband would divorce you if he knew about the affair? It is really up to you on whether or not you want to tell him this.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 11-07-2007 - 2:41pm

Welcome to the board sarahsquiet,


There are a lot of things going on in your relationship and thought process.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 11-08-2007 - 9:14am

Many times when there has been infidelity in a marriage, guilt arises and the person then feels the only way to solve the situation is to run away, or get divorced. This is a kind of punishment for the bad behavior.


Rather than think that way, I urge you to go for counseling to work out your guilt about the affair and to find out what's really going on in your relationship. Why is he putting you down? Why are you not so attracted to him? Often this is the result of issues which have gone unexplored, feelings which are unexpressed and maybe even unconscious. With the help of a good counselor you can discover what's really going on here, see if it can be worked on and remedied or if divorce is the only solution.


As you are already married and even have a child together, you certainly owe it to yourself and your family to give it a try.


Best wishes,