I want to be more than friends

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Registered: 10-07-2004
I want to be more than friends
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Thu, 10-07-2004 - 11:19pm
Ok, so I met this guy a year ago. We dated for a month then things fell apart and we would talk every few months. We would hook up and then he wouldnt call for like a month or so meaning I was a booty call. Well he had a girlfriend for a while and now that they are broken up I had left a note on his car saying I missed him...not knowing him and his gf broke up since we had not talked in 3 months. He called me and we talked and he asked me to have lunch with him.Since then I have told him that I want to be with him again but he says he doesnt want a relationship right now because he just got out of one and that it isnt me it is just girls in general he isnt interested in right now. He says he has no problem being my friend..but now he says thats all he wants. He told me today he was going to glamis for halloween again and he said that made him remember it has been a year since me and him got together. If he just wants to be friends why would he bring that up? I also told him what he wanted to hear that its better to be friends and he said unless he decides otherwise and he said "but that wont happen". Is he confused about what he wants? Is he just playing games with me? Should I continue being his friend? or just let go?
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Registered: 09-26-2003
Fri, 10-08-2004 - 8:22am

It sounds like he meant what he said...It isnt you, just girls in general. Meaning, he just got of a relationship, its not that he doesnt want to be with you, he doesnt want to be with anyone. Give the boy some space and he might come around. Pushing the issue will only push him away from you rightnow.


So, he probably says those "little things", with a tad bit of flirtiness, but i woldnt take it to heart quite yet. Give him some room, let him hang with his buds, and Im sure he will eventually realize what an awesome chick he is missing out on.:)


Keep us updated!


 

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Registered: 10-07-2004
Sat, 10-09-2004 - 2:48pm
I don't think I can be JUST his friend though...It kills me to sit next to him or stand next to him knowing I can't put my arms around him...We both have NO time for a real relationship..but seeing him once or twice a week would satisfy me. But I want to be more than friends and I know if I tell him this again he will stop talking to me..I mean when I left him the note on his car it said I MISS YOU SO MUCH..If he didnt feel the same way why did he still call me? He confuses me so much..I just feel like crying...I dont even want another guy..I want to try with him first..My friend said that next time I see him I should just kiss him and see what he does...I dunno..I need help :(