I want him back! Please help ASAP!
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|Fri, 08-03-2012 - 2:33pm|
Hi everyone I recently started talking to a new guy. We began talking the end of June, beginning of July. We met on a dating site. We just talked casually and after about a week of talking we decided to meet up. We went to see a movie and I had a great time with him. We then decided to meet up again 2 days later and go to dinner. After dinner we talked about all kinds of things. We had great conversation and I couldnt believe how fast we were clicking. Then 4 days after that we went to dinner again and we both felt like we had known each other longer than we really had. We were both feeling the same way about one another and we have both been hurt in the past. He told me we first met that he was just looking for a friendship but since he met me he wanted more. So he asked me that night if I would be his girlfriend and I said yes. I was so happy and we continued dating and talking. Everything was going good until I looked on his facebook and saw a girl post something I wasnt too happy about and I wasnt going to say anything but he kept asking me what was wrong cause he could tell something was bothering me so I told him and he got mad bc he said I was just making assumptions about things and I said well you still have single on your fb so Im just wondering what we are. So he got mad about the situation and said I really liked you but maybe we should just be friends. I was really hurt and I couldn't believe how he acted. It took him about a day to cool off and then he told me he doesnt give people chances bc life is too short but we could forget about this incidenta and be together but if it happens again he was done. So I was like ok but I was still mad bc he was still going on that dating site and I felt like we werent offical then bc I knew he was talking to other women. Anyways I let things go about it and didnt say anything and yesterday I had been busy and hadnt texted him or anything all day so he texts me around 3:30 and says "You being quiet" and I was like no. He said I think so I just now hear from you after texting you and I said well I have been busy and the phone works 2 ways. He then got mad about that and was like oh ok then have a good day. I was like Wow really and he says that I have a smart mouth and it would be nice to hear from me first and I have excuses for everything. I was just joking when i said that and I told him I was joking and that he gets mad too easily. He tells me its fine and then I reply with i dont understand what you want from me. You give me mixed signals because the other day you said you need space and stuff so I was trying to give you that. Well he gets mad again and says really Im giving you mixed signals you must be blind and i cant be with someone who cant see the obvious i like you but until you see my intentions we just need to be friends ive put too much into this too fast for u to say the things you say about this. I want a woman thats gonna see my intentions and understand where im coming from. I was dumbfounded reading this. Then he tells me he is not one of my little exs and when I grow up to talk to him about a relationship and if i ever wanna chill or hangout hit him up but he doesnt have time for someone to be on their toes over him being sincere and going against his relationship rules and he put aside his fears and was willing to open up to me and I act like this. He just cant be with someone who doesnt see all he does and that we are 2 completely different people on 2 different pages in life right now. That I am searching for happiness and he wants a woman who can see things and someone who is willing to start a realationship who isnt thinking every guy is like their exes and he wants something real without doubt he wants to start a bond, get married and build a family so until I grow up we can be friends. So I am like so upset at this point I text back and ask if we can meet and talk about this in person bc there is so much I want to say and I dont want to text it all. I tell him I think we are misunderstanding each other. He replies with you know where I stand and Im not budging its the same stuff with you over and over always asking what we are and questioning things. I apologize to him about asking but I just wanted to know exactly where we stood and I didnt want to think we were more than we were if we werent. He says its all good but i dont ever see his efforts and i just make assumptions and I carry hurt from the past and it bothers him. I tell him i didnt realize it bothered him and i always see your efforts i think we dont communicate well bc youre taking things the wrong way and i dont think of you like any of my exs you have been different and thats what ive liked the most. Then he says one day I will see a man when hes in front of me and I say I know you are one and I see you and Im a good woman too. Ive developed feelings for you and I cant just make them disappear and I wouldnt think yours would disappear that fast either. I mean if you care half as much as you told me you did you wouldnt just end things like this. He replies with I told uou we can still be friends but im not putting anything else into this until i know you are appreciative. I tell him I have been very appreciative of him and I thought he knew that and I showed you that. He says well we need to just be friends talk and see if we can resolve everything and see what might come of it. To see if we can make this work or if we just need to be friends but no matter what I want you in my ife regardless. I tell him I dont want to be just friends and he says well we are gonna have to work on that and if it doesnt work I still wanna be friends. I am so sad at this point. Im thinking how can we go from what we were to just friends. This is just so backwards. Im sorry this is so long but I shortened it as much as I could. I just need help/advice about this situation. I really like this guy alot and I dont want to be just friends with him. I want him as a boyfriend. I dont know if I should just leave him alone and let him hit me up or if I should hit him up and ask to meet and talk or what. Please please help asap. Thank you so much!