I want to understand why his doing this?

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Registered: 02-26-2005
I want to understand why his doing this?
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Sun, 03-11-2007 - 1:18am

My bf and I been so intimate for more than a year now. He set me to his schedule and to his daughter that until now I haven't met and his parents doesn't know me . His bestfriend in highschool knew me,and some of his friends. He is not shy or hiding me around going to parties, malls or going around. He told me that his daughter knows me and already see me in picture but we haven't meet. I wan't to settle down. A single like me who is 36 is really cannot wait to have a family of my own. I work on hard on this to work the relationship, we're happy going out but I want more than that like a family. He told me that he is serious with me and it will takes time that soon I will meet her daughter..that promise was since January and now is March. I don't know until when I should wait or I don't know what is the right to tell him that will convince him to decide when I already told him that we need to move to a certain level...I was so open with him,to my friends and from my family..I'm so proud of him. Help me on what should I do.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 03-12-2007 - 12:15pm

Hi Marielle,


I answered your post on the other board...

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Mon, 03-12-2007 - 1:03pm

I don't know why he is doing this. What has been his reasoning for not introducing you to his daugther and partents? I would ask him again when you will be able to met them.


It could be that you are ready for a more serious relationship and he isn't.

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Registered: 02-26-2005
Mon, 03-12-2007 - 9:50pm
He told me he is serious with me and I told him before that I'm looking for a serious relationship. Whenever I ask him he's just ignoring everything...he just always said soon,soon,soon as if I feel like begging. The reason I'm doing this is just to feel he doesn't need to hide that he have a girlfriend and have a growing relationship,I feel like stranger and a mistress when I should not. He told me all about his family & his divorce but what I don't understand is..he is sharing everything he does but scheduling our meetings when the daughter is not around and cannot call me "dear" on the phone when his parents is around cuz they don't know he have a girlfriend, to think that he is 40 yr old man and I am 35 very much single who's longing to have a healthy and happy family someday.