iam seeking advice

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Registered: 09-18-2004
iam seeking advice
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Sat, 09-18-2004 - 3:30pm
i need help on trying to see if i am over exageratting. i have been in a relationship for about a year now... i love my boyfriend but sometimes i doubt him. he has girls call him which he says they are friends, i can handle that. about a couple months ago... there has been this girl that has been calling him at all sorts of hours. i asked him who she was. he told me a friend. i took the time to call this girl and ask her what was her relationship with my boyfriend and if she knew he had a girlfriend. she was shocked and told me no she didn't know he had a girlfriends. that they were just co-workers. i said ok. now i have been insecure for those past months and i acuse him of cheating and creeping behind my back. sometimes he will act secretive on using the phone and will talk low sometimes.... i try to explain it to him that the way he acts sometimes looks suspicious. i am confused because i want my relationship to work and i know he is fed-up with all my accusations. he told me that we needed time apart because i was driving him crazy. he told me to figure out what i want and to figure what he has done so i could act like this. because we have been fighting too much. am i going crazy or is it that i am seeing things.... he always calls and i know where he is most of the time. i am always with him on the weekends because our week days we work and go to school. finishing our bachleors. i am also not trying to keep a close eye on him he just does it so i know where he is and he knows where i am most of the time. we don't check up on each other. we just like to communicate like that. i need advice what should i do....we haven't spoken in several days becasue he wants me to think about things. he does say here and there he wants things to work out. i have been hurt really bad in the past and my trust issues are sometimes there, but i need to work on them... but sometimes its hard to ignore it.




Edited 9/21/2004 2:29 pm ET ET by sweetivy07
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Sun, 09-19-2004 - 2:03am

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 2:28pm
I find it odd that he developed a 'friendship' with his co-worker and never said a word about being in a relationsip with you. Very odd. I too would think he was hiding something or trying to make something happen with someone else. It's probably better that the two of you aren't together. Trust issues abound on both sides.


Carrie