"If its meant to be, it will be"?
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| Wed, 07-21-2004 - 5:10pm |
However, we both seem to still care a great deal about each other but know that right now is not the time for us to be together, he has told me pretty much that he wants to be able to "sew his wild oats" although he didnt use those exact words.
There was a point when all we would do was argue because the pain was overwhelming for me and the mere vision of him was a reminder of how much he hurt me. But when we dont argue about what happened and he comes to see the baby if you didnt know our history in some cases we still look as a "happy family". And Im not really comfortable with that because I know I still love him deeply and I think he still loves me also. I want it to be clear to him that I will not accept him having his "cake and eating it to". I would want there to be a reconciliation if he could change. I know he's not ready for that yet. What Im getting at is there are so many cliches about love: If it's meant to be it will be, If you love someone let them go if they come back it's meant to be etc, etc. What is your take on this. Is there any truth to that. What Im really trying to figure out is could there be hope for us somewhere down the line?

Sorry.
I think you have to move forward with your healing and if he ever decides he wants something more with you, he will have to prove himself - including counseling. However, something tells me that his values justify his behavior and he probably doesn't think he's done anything wrong. He did what he wanted to do.
Carrie
Find a man, not a little boy if you want a relationship.