I'm about 50 and am with a younger man

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Registered: 04-25-2008
I'm about 50 and am with a younger man
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Fri, 04-25-2008 - 10:07am

I'm 51 and am with a younger man, he's 29!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-25-2008 - 11:40am

These relationships are tricky. They can work, but they also take extra work on your part and increased maturity. You need to be able to deal with the reactions of others, and to the life cycle differences between you. Be very clear about what he is looking for, what he wants out of his life. Does he want children? Will he later on? This is very important. And what are you looking for? Do you just want fun to now, or are you hoping for a relationship which will grow and last? As in all relationships both of you need to be on the same page about how you see the future. Of course, he is quite young and his needs and feelings can and will change. This must be factored in as well.


Beyond that, as in all relationships, communication and consideration of each other's needs and differences are crucial as well.


Best wishes,

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 04-25-2008 - 12:46pm

Welcome to the board thoyum,


I think whether of not the relationship will work partially will depend on whether of not the two of you want to same things out of the relationship.


Why do you feel like you're making a mistake? Is it just because of the age difference?

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 04-25-2008 - 3:12pm

Welcome to the board thoyum,


Have you check out the May-December Relationships

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Registered: 04-25-2008
Fri, 04-25-2008 - 8:45pm

He seems to immature or is it me?

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Registered: 04-25-2008
Fri, 04-25-2008 - 8:49pm
Thank your
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Registered: 04-25-2008
Fri, 04-25-2008 - 8:51pm
Thank you, I'll look into that.
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Registered: 04-25-2008
Wed, 04-30-2008 - 1:48am
HE LEFT ME ANYWAY.
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 04-30-2008 - 10:18am
Sorry to hear about your breakup. If you look back at Carrie's post she has a link to the Breaking Up is Hard Board.