im about to get married but......

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-13-2002
im about to get married but......
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Thu, 04-03-2008 - 7:33am

im supposed to be getting married this august but

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-02-2008
Thu, 04-03-2008 - 9:12am
Looks like we are in the same boat.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-03-2008 - 9:47am

If you are still involved emotionally with another woman, the right thing to do is to either call off or definitely postpone the wedding. You can't get married while attached to someone else. This is truly unfair to all concerned, your fiance, yourself and the other women. Right now the best thing to do is tell your fiance that you are having doubts about the wedding and need some time to work things over. Then get yourself into therapy, with a well trained excellent therapist, so you can sit down and with professional help work your feelings out. Even though it will cause upset and disappointment at this point, it is far better than having this come out later on, either closer to the wedding, or after the marriage has taken place. There is nothing wrong with having mixed feelings as long as you do the responsible thing about them, which is to let your fiancee know that you can't proceede right now and go get these issues worked out.


Best wishes,

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Thu, 04-03-2008 - 1:38pm

Welcome to the board jmilano,


It sounds like you really don't want to be with your fiance. I think you owe it to her to be honest with her. She deserves to be with someone who WANTS to be with her.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 04-03-2008 - 2:05pm

Hi life_is_great_08,


Please edit your post and remove

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 04-03-2008 - 2:16pm

Hi jmilano,


I'm confused, are you about to marry the guy you were having issues with back when you posted in Jan/Feb


HELP!! what can I do??


now what??


But now you are seeing another woman?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2007
Thu, 04-03-2008 - 4:53pm

"what shall I do?"


I think you might want to behave like an adult and break things off with both women since neither seems to make you happy - otherwise why would you want two?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-06-2008
Sun, 04-06-2008 - 3:13pm

I've lived this.

Chrissie

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2008
Mon, 04-07-2008 - 8:20am

Getting confused here.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-13-2002
Mon, 04-07-2008 - 9:02am
i think there is somekind of misunderstadning here,, the posts on the other board are not from me I am very new here and that was my first post.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-27-2006
Mon, 04-07-2008 - 9:07am

hey just wondered how long were you dating for? and how long was he with his wife before they got married? did he break up with you when he got married or carried on? sorry for all the questions just curious


tasha x

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