Im a big faker...

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Registered: 10-10-2007
Im a big faker...
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Wed, 10-10-2007 - 4:29pm
Me and my boyfriend have been having sex for about a year, and he's yet to have given me an orgasm.
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 10-10-2007 - 4:39pm

Welcome to the board ashbychique,


First I think you need to stop faking it. Also remember that your bf wants to please you. So when you are having sex tell him what you want him to do. When he does something that you really like, make sure to let him know by either telling him how good it feels or by asking him to do that again.


Also don't be so hard on yourself. Most women have faked it at least once in their life.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 10-10-2007 - 6:17pm

Welcome to the board ashbychique,


I couldn't imagine being with my partner for a year and not having an orgasm, not sharing and faking it.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 10-10-2007 - 7:41pm

There's no reason at all for him to think things were "bad"...just make little tiny suggestions, step by step, on this and that to help things change. Do it in a light hearted, fun filled way when you are actually being intimate,

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Wed, 10-10-2007 - 9:36pm
Don't have a big conversation about this telling him what isn't happening. The next time you are intimate say 'Let's try something new' and then ooh and aah when he does what you like. Guide him. If it is successful then tell him how great it was and he will repeat.