I'm bored w/my man

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Registered: 08-27-2004
I'm bored w/my man
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Thu, 08-14-2008 - 11:17pm
Hi all!
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Registered: 11-07-2007
Fri, 08-15-2008 - 12:48am

<< When I'm with him, I do feel content and even happy sometimes, but I guess I wish he would do more, be more.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Fri, 08-15-2008 - 9:25am

Just wanted to come here and say that there are people who break up after much longer than 4 years. Having time invested in a relationship is not a reason to continue to stay together - GOOD RELATIONSHIPS stay together because they love one another, love one another's company, want to fulfill goals together, do not want to be with other people and feel warmth and comfort rather than boredom and disdain.

It could be that you will come back here when you are more sober and say "sorry I just needed to rant, this situation seems worse than it really is and I'm going to stay."

But I do hope you give a lot of thought to the reasons why you are still in a relationship that doesn't seem to be making you that happy.

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Registered: 08-27-2004
Fri, 08-15-2008 - 10:28am
Thanks for honest input.
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Registered: 12-27-2004
Fri, 08-15-2008 - 10:41am
What still remains to be done before the house is finished?
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Registered: 01-12-2005
Fri, 08-15-2008 - 11:32am

Don't project this one year a whole twenty years into the future, so many people unwittingly shoot themselves in the foot that way for things bigger and smaller than this that it's not even funny.

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Fri, 08-15-2008 - 11:36am

'If I saw this, I'd probably say big deal, suck it up, deal with it and quit your whining,'


I would never suggest this if you were unhappy.


'He's doing it all himself (which I'm proud of believe it or not) but the house is running his life and as a result running mine.'


Have you spoken to him about this? What about a compromise where he pays people to help him speed up the process and in turn, you get more time with him and it helps the relationship? Do you think that once the house is done, that he will be more social and want to go out more?


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Registered: 08-27-2004
Fri, 08-15-2008 - 12:03pm
I agree with you.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 08-15-2008 - 1:45pm

Welcome jag302004,


Sandra gave you excellent advice.

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Registered: 01-12-2005
Fri, 08-15-2008 - 1:57pm

....."I feel restless with alot of things in my life.

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Registered: 08-27-2004
Fri, 08-15-2008 - 3:12pm
I completely agree w/everything you have said and thank you.