I'm crushed and confused... need advice.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-18-2004
I'm crushed and confused... need advice.
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Fri, 04-18-2008 - 9:06am

good morning...


well let me get straight to the point... I have been dating this guy for 5 months now.. he actually had an eye for

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2006
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 11:52am

Wow this makes me wonder if you're dating my ex!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-18-2004
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 12:29pm

well he is 28 turning 29 this year.


yes, he just stopped communicating and when you try to talk to him he gives you short answers and stuff... but yea I have been thinking on what to tell him and that's more or less what I will be telling him... im not going to scream or even nag I am going to get straight to the point.


and if he really cared or wants me in his life he will at least try to think about things and see what happens b/w us and try to come to an agreement on how to balance our worlds since he started the academy and I go to school and work full time. there is always weekends.


everything that you said happened to you is exactly what is happening to me now.


thank you for your advice and I feel a

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 12:34pm

Welcome to the board sweetivy07,


Most people put their best foot forward when they first start a relationship.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-18-2004
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 1:00pm

i totally agree with you on seeing his real him...


but im really not a hard person to please... little simple things make me happy....he just stopped cold turkey and thats why i feel unhappy... his not affectionate at all.. and i know no matter how long you have been with that person some type of affection is needed... thank you for your suggestion on the book... i will defenitely read it


have a great day and once again thank you. :o)

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2007
Sun, 04-20-2008 - 1:59pm
Men understand that the way to attract a woman to them is to romance them.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Sun, 04-20-2008 - 8:38pm

>>The men who dont like to do those things, but do them out of necessity to get a woman, should never start with it from the beginning.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-18-2004
Mon, 04-21-2008 - 8:01am

i totally agree with you... some men don't understand that being a hopeless romantic doesn't matter. I want a man to be himself and thats what i told him from the beginning. i fell for him, you are right... now i have to determine if i like the real him.


iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2007
Mon, 04-21-2008 - 10:17am

"he also admitted that he feels that something is missing in the relationship but hasn't figured it out. :o("


Yeah, what's missing is your enthusiasm and probably the way you responded to him when he was being romantic.