i'm desperate for advice

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Registered: 05-31-2003
i'm desperate for advice
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Sat, 05-31-2003 - 8:09pm
i recently moved in with my boyfriend. It was his idea and it was going great at first. But now all he wants to do is be with his friends. even when we are both at home he is either watching tv or playing computer games, barely paying attention to me. we used to do everthing together but now i just feel like he doesnt love me anymore. Wha should i do?
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Registered: 04-02-2003
Sun, 06-01-2003 - 12:10am
hi kukla... first - look at the relationship prior to your moving in - in an objective way. was he REALLY attentive to you and your feelings? was he considerate and respectful? was the relationship REALLY going well, and you thought that moving in would only make things better? think about the things you didn't like before ---- and see if they fall under the same categories as now.

second - its ok for the two of you NOT to spend 24/7 *together*. its *mormal* for people to have down time, or spend time with their friends. if you feel he NEVER wants to spend time with you - then talk with him. DON'T whine, DON'T get all emotional - just tell him what you miss. ask him if there are things that YOU could improve on..

third - what is it that you do all day? do you both work? go to school? do you have friends and hobbies of your own?