I'm desperate for help.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-20-2012
I'm desperate for help.
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Fri, 01-20-2012 - 5:19am

This may be long, and I am sorry if I ramble, but I'm just... lost, confused, angry and lonely. There are so many emotions in me at the moment, it's hard to differentiate between them to be honest.

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Registered: 01-12-2012
Fri, 01-20-2012 - 8:03am
I am so sorry your in this situation. It sounds like your scared and isolated. I would suggest you begin by examining why you think you need to be with this man. Often when we leave relationships we aren't fully prepared emotionally or mentally to enter into a new one so quickly. This man is showing classic abuser patterns and if you chose to continue this could be devastating for your daughter. I have been in a marriage with a man for over 9 years that got progressively worse. Love doesn't change people abusive people. But it will make you AND your daughter victims. If no other family will help you perhaps you should ask your exH for help.
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Registered: 05-20-2009
Fri, 01-20-2012 - 9:15am

When you were 15, you fell for the bad boy.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Fri, 01-20-2012 - 10:39am

You MUST leave the current situation right away as there is no way to ever make it work.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 01-20-2012 - 11:44am

This really makes me kind of sick to my stomach to read this.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-20-2012
Sat, 01-21-2012 - 5:39am
My friend made me call a womens refuge and I am going to talk to someone on Tuesday. I know I need to get out of this. Not for me, but for her. I don't want her around this anymore. I need to learn to love myself and know that I deserve better. Thanks for all your honest replies.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2009
Sat, 01-21-2012 - 1:02pm

You need to talk to your parents!

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Sun, 01-22-2012 - 9:29am
I am so sorry to hear what you have been through. Your family has been using the "tough love" approach in a bad way but my guess is that it is hard for them to hear about your life when they can't do anything for you. I think if you call your mother she will help you out if she knows you are trying to escape. It is worth a try. So is the shelter. Good luck...
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Registered: 02-12-2012
Mon, 02-13-2012 - 12:17am

You are worth so much more then what you have with him. Anger escalates in my experience and Im worried for you and the little one. Try with your parents see if they can help you to get out before any real damage is done. There are programs that help with rent for low income people and especially with children, worth looking in to.