I'm at my wits ends

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Registered: 08-14-2003
I'm at my wits ends
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Wed, 01-09-2008 - 12:49pm

How do I stop this nasty cycle from happening. I'm starting to loath being around my DF (dear fiancee). We have been together for 4 years, and it has been a battle the whole way.


The first challenge was his ex. She was jealous that he moved on and did everything in her power to break us up. Seems she is the mother of his daughter its not like we could just stop all communication. I decided early on that I was not going to be bullied by her, but it did make for some rough time. I ended up having to move because she made huge scene at my apartment in front of all my snobbish neighbors. I quickly became the outcast and not only did

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 01-09-2008 - 2:04pm

Welcome to the board jenstrouble,


One good idea might be parenting classes. You said the counseling was a waste of money, but you didn't say why. Was it because of the counselors or because it just didn't help?


You aren't happy in this relationship. Do you want to stay with him? Do you think things can get better?

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Registered: 08-14-2003
Thu, 01-10-2008 - 2:03pm

Thanks for the welcome


Parenting classes is a good idea. I'm sure I can talk him into going, but I don't know how much he would get out of it. I tend to have a hard time with him when it comes to changing ones ways, learning from ones mistakes, or just being open minded to new ideas. He is, or rather I think he uses being old fashion as an excuse not to change.


I know personally I welcome change and am open to new ideas (except when I'm mad, then I become stubborn..lol) I know I'm a completely different parent now then I was when I started. I