I'm new to this blog board, but I'm still trying to reach out and get help or understanding to help me understand.

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Registered: 01-14-2014
I'm new to this blog board, but I'm still trying to reach out and get help or understanding to help me understand.
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Fri, 01-17-2014 - 12:25am

I posted the long drawn out affair (June last weekend thru august 4) sadly it's been about five months and the OW isn't in the picture, but I'm left without closure and wondering. Does anyone know how to get past this part? I sadly relive the hurt everyday and little things remind me of the hurt this woman put on me, intentionally even when she wasn't the woman my significant other wanted to be with.

~NightStar78~


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Registered: 01-25-2010

  I read the other post.  You can pity her.   Life is like that.  Death is closure.

dragowoman

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Registered: 01-25-2010

  I read the other post.  You can pity her.   Life is like that.  Death is closure.

dragowoman

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Registered: 01-14-2014

Sadly for me it seems that i am left wondering, did my SO really feel something would he have left me? Its sad that I feel this way and this OW is dead, but I do. I look at my SO's behaviors and actions during the week i found out and his "playing nice" to avoid conflict so that he wouldnt get stuck with child support or have issues of that nature. But, im left wondering what if...

~NightStar78~


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Registered: 05-20-2009

What closure are you looking for?  She DIED......it's over.  And you really believe your "man" (I use the term loosely) didn't want to be with her?  Did he ever hear of the word NO!  You'll have closure when you get rid of the loser that screwed around with the dead loser.

What is it you don't understand?  Your SO is just like any other man that gets caught with his hand or whatever in the cookie jar......only you're believing all his lies instead of getting rid of him.  Understand this.......he's a cheater!