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| Wed, 05-28-2008 - 2:06pm |
I posted this on another board yesterday but didn't get much feedback. Please help!
I just joined this community and saw all of your wonderful advice and could really use some right now.
My husband and I have been married for 1 year and dated/lived together for 5. When he and I got together things were easy, he did what he wanted, I did what I wanted, and we'd meet in the middle for everything else. Well I got pregnant(my daughter's 21 months now) and I knew that things would have to change. So I told him. He did what he wanted when I was pregnant and I did what most pregnant women do- got things ready for the baby. Well that baby came and things did change. It only lasted for a couple of months. Now things are going back to the same. He'll go out with his friends for a couple of hours to do something and it'll turn into him staying the night out, or he'll come back 12 hours later completely drunk. I told him two weeks ago that I need more than that for a husband and my children need more than that for a father/step-father. And I told him that I was seriously considering a divorce, so he told me how sorry he was and how he would stop. Low and behold it happened again last night.
I don't know what to do anymore. I love him with all my heart there is not a man I would rather be with. I also know that I deserve better than the way he's treating me, and my kids deserve better. I am so stuck! Please help.

Welcome to the board peoplesay,
Would he be willing to go to marriage counseling with you?
It sounds like he might have a drinking problem do you think this is true?
I say if he does this again than ask him for a seperation. This way he will know that you are serious about wanting him to change.
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Welcome to the board peoplesay,
Was the pregnancy planned?
Sorry to hear all that.... you will have to decide what's best for you.