I'm not who he thought i was
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| Thu, 05-22-2008 - 3:04pm |
My husband and I have been having a lot of troubles lately. We fight all the time but it's about stupid stuff. He gets mad because I shop and get new shoes or buy new stuff for the house. I get mad when he doesn't but his stuff away. He's an amazing guy but i don't know what to do to make him happy. He wants me to be simple and not want to shop and not need to wear makeup. He wants me to be like his mother. Plain. I'm not like that and never have been. I love to shp (maybe too much i'll admit but i'm tryin to work on that)
Ever since I started back to work after we had kids it's been hard. I'm a dreamer. I have big goals in life. I have drive and am successful in everything I put my mind to. He loves that as long as it doesn't disturb his dreams. He's in the military which makes it hard for me to have a career because we move every three years. I suck it up and move and start over but I'd be lying if it wasn't hard. I'd much rather commit to one spot but I want him to be happy with his career too. So I reluctantly supported him reenlisting in the Army.
I feel like I've sacrified a lot for him and he should get off my back about the little things like me shopping. I don't know what to do. We care about eachother and i'd do anything for him but i'm afraid he's falling out of love with me. I feel like if I don't stop doing the things that make him mad he'll leave me. How can I pretend to not like shopping anymroe? I'm a normal women. Every woman in my family has a huge love/addiction if you will, with shopping. I've always been this way but he thinks I was different when we got married. I was just broke when we got married so I couldn't afford to shop but I've always liked it. Now that I make good money I can afford nice things.
Please give me some useful advice. Advice for me and advice I can pass on to him.

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Exactly how much "shopping" are we talking about here?
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