I'm pretty worried

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Registered: 04-02-2007
I'm pretty worried
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Mon, 04-02-2007 - 1:43am
Hello. I seem to be sad and worried that my relationship isn't going anywhere. I have been involved with a man since November up til February. I'm in the service and the guy I'm with, he's also in the service--a medic. In the beginning, we've been hugging and constantly writing letters back and forth to each other, even texting on our phones until out of the blue, we ended up having a thing for each other. There was kissing, touching more intimately, but no sex. The following month, we went on our first date and that's when I really started to like him. On my b-day, we went out again and that's when the first time we had sex. Just then, we've been constantly having it and couldn't get enough of each other. Weeks went by after the following month, we've been keeping in touch until he starts to get pretty busy with his medic job taking care of soldiers and have been trying to keep close with me. That's until I went on leave for a week in february, he said "We need to talk." I got nervous. He drop a bombshell saying: "I don't think this is going to work out." I got emotional. He's been trying so hard to be in a relationship with me so he can have that balance. We've been bonding until...we started having sex again. But he regret to me that he should've done that and I agreed. So we can continue to be friends. Moments later, he noticed that I haven't been speaking to him nor contacting because I feel that he would exclude me out not to interfere with his job, he felt like he was left out. Obviously he still has a thing for me and he wants me to continue to communicate with him. Everytime I see him, I put my head down in shame or never say "hi" when I pass him by because feelings stir up and I get depressed and sad. When he called me up and wondering how was I doing, I try my best to do good and he will say, come see me later in my room. I do that, we've bonded again. We would talk, then playfight and later on we continue to sleep together. I feel like inside what's wrong with me? Just a month ago he thinks this isn't gonna work out between us because of his job and then we still connect and sleep together? I'm confused. maybe he sees something in me. It's now april and the tour that we're on is coming to a close. I've noticed he hasn't been contacting me quite a bit, but when he sees me, he would do something like tickle my funny bone or give me a little shove. And another thing, he's deploying to afghanistan this year for 10 months this october. Do you think there is something wrong here in this pattern between us. Please help. What should I do?
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Mon, 04-02-2007 - 12:49pm

Welcome to the board gal_geezer,


Your situation reminds me