I'm scared I've messed it up...

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Registered: 07-09-2005
I'm scared I've messed it up...
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Tue, 10-07-2008 - 2:39pm

I have been seeing a guy for about a year now.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 10-07-2008 - 5:09pm

Welcome to the board kachstre,


You can't *do* anything.

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Registered: 08-30-2008
Tue, 10-07-2008 - 6:09pm
If he breaks up with you for being drunk one time like that then there really wasnt much to that relationship.
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Tue, 10-07-2008 - 7:15pm

Welcome to the

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Registered: 07-09-2005
Tue, 10-07-2008 - 8:21pm

he just called and we talked.

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Registered: 05-11-2008
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 7:58am

Kachstre:


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 11:58am

For starters, it's important for you to take control of the drinking and not let that ever happen again, no matter what. Do you have a drinking problem? Do you need to go to AA? Be honest with yourself. If you go so drunk that you can't remember what happened, it sounds as though there's a bigger problem here....You can go to your boyfriend and apologize and tell him that this is something you are now taking control of and working on. Ask him what happened. He may or may not be willing to respond or to be involved. If he isn't, just let it go and work on yourself. See what it is that caused you to get into that kind of state and make sure it can never happen again. Don't brush this under the rug. If you take responsibility and take care you will be able to build a healthy, happy relationship in the future.


Best wishes,

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Registered: 10-08-2008
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 3:55pm

I totally feel ya girl.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 6:23pm
I am sorry that this didn't turn out as you had hoped. You can at least be glad that you now know what happened and that he called you and told you how he feels even if it is confusing for you. I have a feeling though that his decision wasn't based solely on what happened the other night.
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Registered: 12-18-2006
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 7:49pm

I really do not believe that the drunk sex was the issue or the fact that he drove you home drunk. He probably had a serious thought after you showed up at his house drunk and realized how risky the relationship was becoming. That thought probably solidified a thought that he was having long before and you provided an easy out. If he is in a higher position at work where he should not be fooling-around with his employees, he could potentially loose a lot. He was having fun and who knows what you said in your drunken state. You did make a mistake and that was drinking to the point where you lost control. Stop beating yourself up, he was always in control of the relationship even at this point. You appear to be very young by your comments but the good thing is that he did break it off. Learn from this and move on. It will hurt for a long time because you work with him and probably have to see him every day. Find things to distract yourself but try your best to leave him alone.


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