I'm a secret
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I'm a secret
| Mon, 03-22-2004 - 11:52am |
My boyfriend and I (both 31) have been dating for 6 months. My friends and family know of him. He's only met two of my friends and everyone else knows of him. I have not met anyone on his side. The thing which is upsetting me is no-one on his side even knows I exist. I found this odd and it is starting to disturb me.
Am I over-reacting?
I feel at this stage, when the discussion of moving-in together has been brought up and we just booked a cruise for the begininng of June together, I should not be a mystery. I do not understand why he doesn't share my existence with others. Whenever I suggest going out with my friends, he shys away from that with one excuse or another. It's getting old and I'm not certain I want to be in a hidden relationship any longer.
Any thoughts or suggestions?
Thank you.

I would discuss this with him...ask him why he is keeping you as ab outsider in the life you've been sharing with him...Its my opinion(at least from past experience), that the more you like someone, the more you talk about htem.Face it, this aint Hollywood and im sure he doesnt have the papparazzi chasing you guys, so why the secrets?
I would ask him, " hey, Im sooo excited to spend tme with you, I can hardley keep you to myself and i was wondering if you shared the same esxcitment?"...
Good luck,
If I were you I would tell him either you meet his friends/family asap or you leave. He is sending you a strong message and you need to do the same
Good luck.
My converstation about this situation last night didn't go over all too well. I expressed how the secrecy makes me feel and there wasn't much acknowledgement of that except to say I wasn't accurate in my thoughts. The end result, he told me he's a private person and isn't ready to share his relationship with me with others.
I'm not happy with that response. I don't buy it. Now I have to find the strength to move on. My gut tells me he's hiding something in his past.
Do you have anything he could consider embarrassing or shameful to where he doesn't want people to know about you? And have you been to his place, etc?
Jennifer
"Oh, that you would bless me indeed, and enlarge my territory, that Your hand would be with me, and that You would keep me from evi
Nope, nothing that I consider something to be ashamed of. The only thing I can think of is my parents are divorced and his parents are sticklers for making it work, etc. But, other than that, I have no dark clouds in my past. It's very bizarre, and annoying!
Sorry to hear you are going through something similar. It's definitely not fun.