Im torn between two guys

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Registered: 03-28-2004
Im torn between two guys
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Sun, 03-28-2004 - 10:09am
I have Been going out with this guy for two years and he had done everything for me plus more. What can ya ask for?? I was really close to his family and friends.But maybe too close to one of his friends. I never cheated on him but I knew his friend liked me and I always kept that in the back of my mind.He Finally got his call for the Forces and we were so happy we finally were going to have the life that I thought I wanted. He was gone for 10 weeks, home for less than two then gone then for 16 weeks. But he would hardly call and when he did it was for 5 min or less which I knew he had longer. He would be out partying and I would stay home because it felt like he didnt want me to go anywhere. and he would call on monday thinking everything was alright and I was getting fid up and wanted to call it off but I was too Scared. so I called his friend that i havent talked to since the summer. i never had any contact with him before becuuse my boyfriend didnt want me to. Everything seemed to go away when I was talking to him. one thursday night my boyfriend called and told me not to call all weekand he wanted time. And anyway it ended up in a fight and I told him I didnt want nothing to do with him. so I called the friend. And I ended going out with the friend. That too was still a long distance but he had time for me and i was only going to be a month. Then My biyfriend called one night wanting me back so I called it off with his Friend. And now he said he cant trust me and will I dont trust him so we got into a fight over it and I told him I would be better if we be friends and that i wasnt going back to his friend but we still talk everynight and now I know I made A mistake calling it off with him and now I want him back. And I dont know what to do!! can anyone help me???
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 03-28-2004 - 11:59am
jennifer...

Do you happen to recall the tune that Stephen Stills sang a few years ago?

"If you can't be with the one you love, honey...LOVE THE ONE YOU'RE WITH!"

And obviously you 'followed through' on Stephen's suggestion!

Pianoguy is willing to bet that you're not really ready to commit yourself to anybody right now...so DON'T! Date several people while the military man is out of the picture.

This way you can tell (when he comes back) if a life-long commitment is in the cards for you. It really sounds like you need more time to sort through your feelings.

Best of luck.

Pianoguy

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Mon, 03-29-2004 - 10:56am
yeah i think piano guy is right. How old are you? I mean if u not in any hurry why make up your mind. Enjoy.

Ustaani