im at witts end plz helpi wrecked everyt

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im at witts end plz helpi wrecked everyt
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Wed, 03-03-2004 - 7:18am
im 19 and my bfs 23 weve been going out for a few months and i know hes the one for me

recently i went away for a week and was very lonely i ended up with someone else for a night he dosnt know and i want to sort it out with him but he wont talk to me for some reason and he wont see me its been two weeks and he just tells me hes too busy with work and hangs up his phone whats going on? i know for sure he dosnt know what happened but before i left everything was picture perfect im losing my mind hes the one for me what do i do?i love with with my heart
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Registered: 09-05-2003
Wed, 03-03-2004 - 7:47am

Well, first off you do not know this guy is the "one for you."

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Registered: 05-13-2003
Wed, 03-03-2004 - 9:57am
I don't want to be too harsh here, but how on earth could you be so lonely after one week away from your boyfriend? This suggests you have issues of far greater worry than whether this particular relationship is going anywhere.

You are 19 - there's plenty of time for making declarations of having found 'the one'. If he's blowing you off then he doesn't sound like 'the one' to me.

I'd focus your attentions on why you need to sleep around so that you don't feel 'lonely'. If you were doing it because you felt 'horny' well that's something altogether different - but if it was out of lonliness then that suggests you have some deeper issues to resolve - I'd seek counseling to figure out what those issues are and how you can best go about attaining some self-esteem.

Peace - Pebbles

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-03-2004 - 10:48am

Are you sure he doesn't know? Is there some way someone may have told him?? It's quite unusual and odd that he would simply withdraw from you in this way - unless he either knows, or there was some unspoken problem going on between the two of you before you left?? Sometimes there are feelings and issues that go on in a relationship that are not brought to the surface and discussed, but take their toll and all of a sudden erupt like this. Perhaps there was something bothering you as well that lead you to spend a night with someone else?


I do not know what is going on in your situation, but if he just drops you in this way, (not knowing what happened), clearly there were problems that you were not aware of.