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| Tue, 03-09-2004 - 3:52am |
My husband and I married a few years ago and my in-laws didn't really seem interested in the wedding. My mother-in-law even pulled this stunt of not showing up for the wedding shower at the last minute because she says 'i didn't want her there'. That was such a load of crap. I thought we were starting to get along when my husband was offered a much better paying job doing something he had always dreamed of. Well it was across the country and instead of being happy she threw a fit. Everyone was nervous about the move but my mother in law told my husband that if he took the job and didn't divorce me she never wanted to talk to him again. It has been a year and Ihave tried to reach out numerous times but she is just nasty everytime I try and my husband doesn't really want to try if she is going to continue to be nasty. I think she is being ridiculous and would like everyone to get along but I don't see how unless she accepts us and the life we live. What should I do?

Honestly, you can't DO anything.
James
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Aaaah, there is your problem. It sounds like she is being childish. You can either continue to torment yourself by going out of your way to make her happy or you can realize that this woman has issues with letting go of her son and seeing him as an adult and let go yoruself. Be gracious and mature and call her once a week (or whatever you see fit) but don't play into her games.
Are you and your husband united about how to deal or not deal with her? Can you laugh it off and be thankful that you don't live so close to her? Maybe you want to write a nice letter saying that you are happy and hope she accepts your decisions. Be the nice guy and then limit contact if she keeps throwing fits and asking your Dh to divorce you.