Insecurity & Jealousy is ruining my life-Help!

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Registered: 01-14-2012
Insecurity & Jealousy is ruining my life-Help!
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Sat, 01-14-2012 - 8:05pm

I want to first explain that I have been diagnosed (and am on medication) with major depression

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-14-2012

I have recognized that I'm in an abusive relationship but as I said earlier he is living in my apartment (only my name is on the lease).

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Love is always blind in the beggining. Now that your 6 months in you are seeing the REAL him and don't like what you see. Call the police and tell them he is abusing you and you want him removed from your apt. My sister in law just had an abusive BF removed by the police about 3 mths. ago. If he is not on the lease you can do this.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008

Peace is correct, you could have the police remove your BF.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Yes my SIL got a restraining order against him and had the locks changed just in case he had a spare key hidden somewhere (as he had to turn over the original to the landlord) as part of the order. He never came around and harrased her again.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009

You are right that love is blind... But now you need to think with your head and not your heart. You have asked him to leave and he won't, that means you need to get the landlord involved. If you are serious about him leaving, you will do whatever it takes to get him out, and right now you really have to function as though this relationship is over (it is!)... So enough "asking" him... If this apartment is yours, you tell the landlord what is going on and get the police involved (as has already been advised to you). If your names are both on the lease, then you may need to pay the $150 to cancel. $150 is very little to pay to get out of this situation, abray, and I know it sucks but it's almost never possible to get out of a domestic living situation with a toxic person without taking some kind of financial hit (it would cost me $2500 to get out of my lease!!)

Do whatever you have to do to get him out. It's time to get rational about what steps you're going to take in order to extract yourself from this toxic

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