Insecurity: taking some steps to get rid of it; are there other things I can do?
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|Sun, 02-05-2012 - 6:35am|
I'm dealing with some insecurity issues in regard to my bf. I know exactly why I have them and it's not surprising. I've been married twice, and in both situations the guys came in like a prince but were actually totally different. I threw myself heart and soul in, only to have it all crash down on my head. And at the times, I blamed myself, thinking they didn't love me enough to work on things (neither agreed to counseling help).
Another reason is that my bf and I have jumped into things relatively quickly; we've been together 9 months and moved in together about a month ago. Things are going great living together, but obviously since we've been together less than a year, I don't know absolutely everything about him and his past. More specifically, past relationships. He is a typical man in that he doesn't talk a LOT about things. It's usually the bullet points rather than the essay, so to speak.
I've discovered I have some negative reactions when I see facebook activity from a female friend of his, with whom I believe he had a sexual relationship in the past. I do not think they have a sexual relationship currently; in fact, it appears they