Insight needed

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Insight needed
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Sat, 07-26-2008 - 4:09pm
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Mon, 07-28-2008 - 10:15am

Again thank you for sharing your knowledge. My biggest question right now is what do I do now? Do I give her a card this week and tell her to read it on the plane or in Mexico. Then maybe put a calling card in there but don't write in the card call me. On the other hand do I just let her go and not see her or talk to her before she leaves? If

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Registered: 07-24-2008
Mon, 07-28-2008 - 10:50am

I think you are a wonderful man

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Mon, 07-28-2008 - 12:13pm
What does she want?
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Mon, 07-28-2008 - 12:15pm
Welcome to the board desertgal2008 and thanks for participating.




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Mon, 07-28-2008 - 12:15pm
" I do know that being the "knight in shining armor" all the time does get a bit overwhelming. " If this gets hard for you to continue,i would say let her go as since she is a troubled girl and the last thing she wants is someone who is being with her out of obligation.
To keep up appearances is not easy even if its because of some medical condition.Once you start seeing her as a 'problem' then consider her gone as your gestures will speak out what you literally want to.
Your note should say " have a great time,bye."
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Mon, 07-28-2008 - 5:49pm

Hon, you keep going to different boards, I assume to probably see if you can get a different answer - one that you WANT to hear about contacting her.

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Mon, 07-28-2008 - 5:55pm

This doesn't let her know that you want to get back with her. It's a general statement of regret and love. You will always be in my heart sounds as though, it's good bye and no matter what happens, no matter who you are with or I am with, I'll always love you. If you really want her and want to fix things up with her, why not let her know. Tell her you'll do anything needed to get back on track again...ask her what it may be? A year is a long time. Don't accept it passively if she is the one you want to spend your whole life with.


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Tue, 07-29-2008 - 1:55am

Wow I'm a bit overwhelmed with the responses so sorry if I dont answer your questions. I'll just put everything straight...I love this girl more than anything she is the first thing I think of when I wake up and the last thing I think of before I fall asleep. Yes we have had our problems and yes she has an eating disorder. I know it sometimes gets hard but I am willing to stick through it all with her. Yes I made a terrible mistake last year and I regret it everyday. Yet we are all human and we all make mistakes.


I would really like her back in my arms just so i can hold her and tell her how happy I am to have her in my arms. To be able to look in her eyes and tell her she is the most beautiful women. To be able to run my fingers over her face so that she falls asleep. To be there for her when she's fallen and help her up. TO be able to come home into her arms and after a bad day at work instant;ly smile when I see her smile. The moral of this is not matter what some of you say "Just let her go" I cannot just let her go. This girl means too much to me to just let her go and forget about her.


There have been days she called me while we had a long distance relationship because we were in school in two diff cities for half the semester. When she called me crying at 6pm because she got in a car accident and didnt know what she was going to do. I got in my car and drove the 6 hr trip just to make sure she was alright and assure her she has nothing to worry about.


What I NEED now is your help since most of you are women, I need your help on what to write to her. I want her to know how much she means to me and in the end I want us to work out. I need to say this though without pressuring her into anything. So please help me with this

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Tue, 07-29-2008 - 9:15am
Since no female has adviced you, let me try,as an old man.Look boy, your last part of letter " Please remember...." needs to be changed.It seems more like a goodbye, accepting what she has asked ,that is, no contact. Agree to her request but dont agree:) in the sense that tell her you understand her need of space but ...........( fill in here about you see about both of you, you love for her ,what she means to you,etc.).
Write what you feel for her.dont keep to yourself.that only hurts later and sadly except for feeling sorry,nothing more can be done.
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Tue, 07-29-2008 - 11:11am

Thansk for the help fullhalfquater!


I made some slgiht changes but I really need help with the ending...the story behind the sea doo is on a trip to the caribean we took a sea doo out on the ocean and had a blast. I know this note is suppose to be personal and it is I just need some hel with the end