Issues with everthing

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Registered: 01-07-2008
Issues with everthing
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Mon, 01-07-2008 - 8:56pm

My husband and I have been together for 2 1/2 years and boy do we have drama. He's alcoholic and he recently relapsed, he's isn't as bad as he was before he started going to AA but it still bugs me because I've have past relationships with people who have abused me physically and mentally. Second he never helps me around the house anymore, I feel like his freaking maid! He says that if keep on bitching at him about picking up after himself he going to do it even more. Thirdly, He always wants sex and always asks for it on a daily basis and it's really unattractive and annoying. I feel that he helped more around the house and didn't ask for sex that he would get sex more often but he never listens to a word I say. What do I do! I am to the point where if he doesn't start acting I'm going to leave and don't want it to come to that.


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Registered: 09-30-2005
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 12:13pm

Welcome to the board kelede,


Is he still going to AA meeting? It might also be helpful if you went to Al-Anon meetings. I would also ask him to go to marriage counseling with you before you give up on things.

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 12:40pm
Are you getting anything out of this marriage? Are there any kids involved?
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Registered: 01-07-2008
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 10:12pm

Their are no kids, he wants kids really bad but I don't want them to grow up with a dad who can't take care of himself. Don't get me wrong, I love him very much and there are a lot of great qualities about him, but he kind of

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 10:48pm
What about leaving for awhile while he goes to meetings or detox or does what he needs to get help. What do you need? What is best for you? You can't save him.