IS IT CHEATING??

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Registered: 04-14-2004
IS IT CHEATING??
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Thu, 04-22-2004 - 10:23am
HI ,WELL LET ME GET STARTED. MY GIRLFRIEND AND I HAS BEEN DATING FOR 4 MONTHS NOW AND I REALLY CARE ABOUT HER. SHE BE ON THIS WEBSITE CALLED BLACKPLANET AND ONE DAY I WAS WONDERING DO SHE BE TALKING TO OTHER GIRLS ON IT, SO I MADE ANOTHER PAGE AND I SENT HER A NOTE AND SHE SENT ONE BACK SAYING SHE DONT HAVE A GIRLFRIEND SHE LOOKING AND HASN'T FOUND THE RIGHT ONE YET. SO WHEN I READ IT I CALLED HER AND TALKED TO HER ABOUT IT AND SHE TRYED TO LIE AND TURN IT ON ME AND THEN SHE WAS SAYING SHE DIDNT MEAN TO DO IT. SO MY COUSIN SENT HER A NOTE AND SHE DID THE SAME THING AND I SHE SAID SHE WAS SORRY THE SAME. WHAT SHOULD I DO? SHOULD I SAY WITH HER?
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Registered: 12-28-2003
Thu, 04-22-2004 - 11:05am
Well, I wouldn't put up with it. Sounds like she's playing. Perhaps one of those people who wants to have her cake and eat it too. You've obviously got your evidence of what she is doing and yet she lies to you about it. Is that something you really want to put up with? I don't think that there is anything you can do to change her so if this is not the kind of relationship you are looking for then you should break it off. I realize you care for her but does she care that much for you?

In an answer to your question: I think it does qualify as cheating or at least looking to cheat. I think you already know this too. Look at it like this: at least you are finding this out now as it's only been four months. Imagine how it would be that much more painful if you were together for a year and then you found this out. There are lots of other women out there who want what you want, who are looking for a woman with commitment values. If that's what you are looking for then you are wasting your time with this girlfriend of yours and you could be passing up a more geniune opportunity.

Good luck with it! :)

Jennifer

"Oh, that you would bless me indeed, and enlarge my territory, that Your hand would be with me, and that You would keep me from evi

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Thu, 04-22-2004 - 1:31pm
She may not be cheating, but she's fishing for a replacement. You can stay and wait for her to replace you OR you can move on and leave her to her searching.


Carrie