is it just me?

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Registered: 09-09-2008
is it just me?
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Tue, 09-09-2008 - 5:21pm

I have been with my boyfriend over a year and half but everything seems to be going downhill we always argue I often wake up to him on the computer talking to other women I don't understand if it me just been jealous or he wants rid of me, he don't seem to be interested anymore. I was really close to leaving him but the problem is I love him too much to leave him and we have a daughter together, I just couldn't stand to be with out him. I just don't know what to do help me please

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: emmhumble
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 7:25pm

Welcome to the board emmhumble,


While you love him, can't see your life without him and you have a daughter with him, what is your stand on cheating? Because for most couple's talking to other women/men online would be a dealbreaker.


You have to know what your bottom line is and how much self-respect you have.

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Registered: 09-09-2008
In reply to: emmhumble
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 7:42pm
i couldnt deal with it if i found
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: emmhumble
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 9:11pm
What do you think he's talking to those online girls about?
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Registered: 09-09-2008
In reply to: emmhumble
Wed, 09-10-2008 - 4:41pm
i really dont know he assures me he doesnt want anyone else and that he loves me but it doesnt seem that way to me, all i want is a bit of honestly from him but he wont give me it. i think as well as i love him its the fact that its him that support me andmy baby and i wouldnt have no where to go and no money if i left him also i hate to think that i would be on my own. i just need him to be affectionate with me and show me that he wants me and really does love me
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Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: emmhumble
Wed, 09-10-2008 - 5:10pm

Welcome to the board,


Sometimes love just isn't enough. If he is up in the middle of the night talking to other women on the computer than I have to say it sounds more like the problems lies with him. Have you talked to him about this and how it makes you feel?

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Registered: 09-09-2008
In reply to: emmhumble
Wed, 09-10-2008 - 5:18pm
i spoke to him last night he says he is sorry and that he will delete his account on the website he goes on but i am still waiting for him to do that,i went out today with my mum and he came for an hour and then came home so he could get some sleep for work tonight but he went on the website instead of going to sleep i just dont understand if he loves me like he says he does then why is not telling me everything and doing things behind my back, i could be making something on nothing he could be telling em the truth but its the fact that he doesnt tell me so it makes me think that he is keep ing secrets from me and i told him all this but seems like it doesnt make a difference he said he is going to change but he has said that before and nothing happens. it even spoils our sex life we dont even have sex anymore which also makes me thing he doesnt find me attractive or i am rubbish but he does or says nothing to say i am wrong on this.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: emmhumble
Wed, 09-10-2008 - 8:56pm

His actions do not match his words. He's telling you he will delete the account but hasn't.

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Registered: 09-09-2008
In reply to: emmhumble
Wed, 09-10-2008 - 9:42pm
if i needed to i could go to my mums but the thing with that is he said if i go to my mumhe will get social services involed because a bit of trouble went on at my mum when we was living there, so i am scared that i will get my daughter taken off me and she is someone i cant live with out she has made my whole life worth living.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: emmhumble
Wed, 09-10-2008 - 9:59pm
My personal opinion is that he's trying to scare you and keep you in fear.
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Registered: 09-09-2008
In reply to: emmhumble
Wed, 09-10-2008 - 10:06pm
yer defnatly he is great with our daughter i can doubt him on that he is a great dad to her i couldnt ask him to be any better with her. and i really dont want to take her away from him but it starting to get that way