Is it love?
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Is it love?
| Wed, 10-15-2008 - 5:56pm |
I have been friends with this girl since we started working together about a year ago. At least, that's what she claims she wants. So, without knowing this, and thinking something was really there, we went places together, and spent some time outside of work. Eventually, we went to the beach. We had a lot of fun. She was acting like she didn't want to sit close to me, and I couldn't try anything, so I didn't. I tried and tried to hint and all of that, and she just either wouldn't get it or just didn't feel it. Weeks later, after spending more time together, I asked her how she felt. I was given 3 reasons why, none of them had to do with me personally. I left that job a little while later, due to other reasons. So now 2 of those reasons were out, and she wasn't seeing anyone. When I left work, we really started to hit it off, at least it seems like. We hang out a lot, and go places here and there. All in all, I still feel something really deep and strong about her. She is in my opinion, the most beautiful girl I have ever seen, and I knew that the moment I laid eyes on her. There's something telling me that I can;t be friends with her if I still feel this way, even after talking with her about it before when we worked together. I've tried everything, and I got nothing. If only she would feel the same way I do, or does she? She seems to really enjoy being my friend, and she told me in a way before that she doesn't see the sparks. What if I still do? And it seems to hurt me more after I get back from hanging out with her. She is older than me, 4 years, and I also think that's blocking something. Is there a way to save this so we are both happy? Or is there still hope?

Welcome to the board gsteve001,
Sounds to me that she's told you how it is for her and because it's not what you want to hear and the depth of your own emotions, you are not accepting the truth.
::If only she would feel the same way I do, or does she? She seems to really enjoy being my friend, and she told me in a way before that she doesn't see the sparks.
No, she doesn't feel the same way.
you cant force something that is not there.
I think that eventually she will grow irritated being in your presence if she does not care for you romantically because she'll feel too much pressure. If she does feel okay about it she could be using you for ego strokes. Sometimes opposite sex friends do that for a person..serve to stroke the ego if no bf is present or the bf doesnt provide that type of emotional fulfillment.
-I was getting that feeling, but I think I'm too afraid to admit it. Because other than being dragged along, shes really fun to get along with. And I like her for that.
-To be completely honest, I feel like shes turning on this protective mode when I say something that will put her in the place where the subject of romance, or actual dating may arise. She changes the subject, saying something that she knows I both hate and love her for.
-But could call of this just be me thinking the worst? How do I tell if she's doing this for a reason? Could I ask? I mean, after all, If it's true, perhaps the better result will come out in the long run, for me and her.
--What do you think?
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