Is it me or is it him?

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Registered: 06-23-2004
Is it me or is it him?
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Wed, 06-23-2004 - 5:40pm
Me and my man have been together for 5 months. The 1 month was like a freaking rollercoaster, we were off and on like a lightswitch! Things started to claim down into the second month. Things were going great up til the 3-4 month. When we talk on the phone, we say hi and how was your day. And thats about it. Then its goes to silence. I try to get him to talk. "hey are you going to talk?" He would be like "talk about what" or " i dont know what to talk about" Whats going on?!!? And when he comes over, he goes straight to my room and watches tv. It seem like he is more interested in the damn tv then me. But when we go out and stuff he pays all the attention to me. (well sometimes) I dont know whats going on in our relationship. And when i try to talk to him about whats going on he gets all defensive with me. We used to agrue a lot. But when we came to the verge of breaking it off, we stopped fighting. I hate the fighting and i dont want to lose him. he told me he has never had someone love him as much as i do and it scares him. Why? On our 5 month anniversary we sat in my driveway talking about what was going on with him. He said he doesnt knwo what to feel anymore. I have had some gut feels that he was cheating on me. But i talked to his mom and cousin and they siad he has never cheated on any of his girlfriends. And he has told me over and over again that he will never cheated on me. I have been cheated on in the past, so i trust him but sometimes its hard. I love this man with everything that i have and i dont want to lose him. I need some help on keeping this relastionship together. Now everything is going great no fights, no arguements. I wanna keep it that way. Is there any hints or help on how to keep it going????
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 6:19pm
skinbabe....

How fast do you want to accelerate this relationship? It sounds like you're in more of a hurry than he is?

Is there any way you can just S-L-O-W D-O-W-N? At least until your 1st year anniversary? After which...the 2 of you can re-evaluate the feelings you have for each other...and perhaps talk about where you'd like your relationship to go?

If TV is consuming your b/f's life....plan a mystery date...then unplug the TV, grab the keys to his car and take him out!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 12-23-2003
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 9:56pm

I'm having a hard time understanding exactly what makes you WANT and love this particular man so much.

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