Is it a mid-life crisis?

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Registered: 06-27-2007
Is it a mid-life crisis?
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Wed, 06-27-2007 - 7:28pm
Maybe someone else out there has gone through this and survived! My hubby of 26 years has changed into someone I don't even recognize. He is 48 and age has always been an issue for him. His military career is coming to an end. That scares him. We have one child left at home and she will be leaving next summer for college. I'm thinking this is great, we have time alone, we can do whatever we want. I felt we were close. The sex was great! We would go out and have a great time. In February,he tells me we have nothing in common, he isn't happy and has never been happy and thinks we should separate. I was in shock! Everyone thought we were so happy and so in love. I even thought we were! Anyway, he says he loves me, but isn't in love with me. He also admitted to a one night stand 12 years ago with someone he worked with. Since February, we have not made love except for once, a week ago. The next morning he tells me he "felt weird" about it. He does hug and kiss me hello and good bye. I feel like I'm living with my brother. We are seeing a counselor, who gets frustrated with him because he doesn't follow his instructions even though he tells him he will. I've encouraged him to move out, but he now says he isn't sure he wants to go. I don't want a marriage like this and it is breaking my heart. What is going on? He says there is no one else. He has had some recent medical problems (hurt his back, some sprains). And he bought a sports car 2 years ago behind my back. I'm confused. Sometimes I think this will work out. Sometimes I don't think it will. He has blamed me for everything that has ever gone wrong in his life, but is afraid to lose every thing he has worked for if he leaves. Sorry this is so long. There is so much more, but I just need to know if anyone else has had this experience and what happened. Did things work out?
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Thu, 06-28-2007 - 10:46am

Welcome to the board crazyinluv_81,


I have only been married for a little over a week so I can't relate to what you