Is it more than a friendship?

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Registered: 03-18-2007
Is it more than a friendship?
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Sun, 03-18-2007 - 4:59am
I've been with my boyfriend for about 3 yrs now and have been living with him for a year. We also have a beautiful 2 month old daughter together. My situation is that he has a female friend that always calls him and is constantly asking him for favors and even calling him up on his cell phone while he is at work. Granted they have been friends for many years, even before i came into the picture. It doesn't help that she is a very attractive girl and lives right across the street. I've told him that her constant calls bother me and that he needs to tell her in a polite way to back off or I will (in a not so polite way). She has also been in a relationship for five years with my boyfriend's good friend. To me it seems like whenever her boyfriend is away she calls on my boyfriend. I get annoyed because she needs to realize that my man has a family now and can't be called for stupid favors like, how to set up a myspace page or how to dl pics off of her camera. I'm really frusterated and don't know what to do. She is not only his friend but a friend of his sister and of the family. He has also told me that in the past she had slept over in the same bed with him after a group of them went out dancing.I think the reason i'm not trustful of the situation is because he has told me that he had a one night sexual fling with one of his other friends a long time ago before he met me. He didn't tell me this of course until later on in our relationship and i had to ask him about it because i had a feeling. Well, now i'm getting a feeling with this friend. I have of course confronted him about having a relationship with this chick. He has told me over and over again nothing is going on and that he loves me and he will never cheat on me. Am i overreacting or is it more than a friendship?
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 03-18-2007 - 5:12am

Hi sdorn86 and welcome to the board.


Until he's willing to set boundaries with her, nothing will probably change.