is it normal to feel this way about him
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is it normal to feel this way about him
| Thu, 06-28-2007 - 6:02pm |
ok as everyone knows me and my fiance have rencently brokin up...I was talking to a friend of mine who was hanging out with my ex from 2 years ago his name is christian..me and christian had a really good realationship we never had an argument if we did disagree about something we always sat and talked about it never did we ever hit eachother or down grade one another if anything we were always supportive of eachother any time i needed something he was there for me as i was for him...I lost my verginity to him as he also gave himself to me...he has always been there for me as a friend when i needed some one to turn to even about my current relationship he has been there for me...and i sit there and think about why we ever let such a good thing go i sit on the phone with him most nights if i can't sleep and just talk about our past and how much fun we had...the one thing that really pushed me away from him is he doesn't have his life together and he doesn't want anything more than what he has right now....he hasn't had a job since we broke up he doens't have a license or a car and hes soon to be 22..and im looking to be with someone who wants so much more..but for some reason i can still think of myself in his arms and think about how happy we use to be... some say i should give it another chance and in a way i wish i could but i know that he isn't something i want...like what we had then was great and back then i couldn't ask for some one better but i know now that we aren't meant to be...im also so confused about the current relationship i have been in and out of for a year and some odd months andrew calls me every night before he goes to bed to talk to me and we talk he tells me he loves me although i told him i refuse to say it back because we aren't together and its the only way i can show him im standing strong but i have written him love poems telling him how i feel and i talk to him about how i feel some days he acts really nice and then others he acts not him self like he doesn't want to show me how miserable he is although i know he is because he told me last night that being without me is so hard.he still calls me when he needs help with something and im right there to help him..in a way i feel like i baby him even if we aren't together...his brother still calls and talks to me it still doesn't make sence that he claims that im still his girl..he always tells everyone yea thats my girl no one else can have her and in a way it makes me feel good but then again i sit there any think the last time i checked you broke up with me so im free to do what i want...he always makes comments like ohh if you date someone else i will just kill them...no one else is aloud to have you...and i usually just laugh because he knows i don't want to be with any one else..no matter what his family always says ohh you better get your man or you better get your girl and one time i made it clear that i wasn't his girl...its so hard because lately i have been having nightmares since he hasn't been in bed with me and thats how its always been once i moved in with him and had him there by my side i didn't have nightmares but when i sleep by my self i do and i don't know...ugh im just so confused about everything in general and i don't know what to do if anyone wants to know more about mine and andrews relationship to understand where im coming from with him i have another post that says need some relationship advice by browneyedbabi so feel free to read that one and give any feed back on that too thanks alot sincerley jenn

He seems to be very immature. If he says that if you get another boyfriend, he will kill you, that you aren't allowed to have one. Doesn't that make you feel scared? He seems stuck on you, yet he won't get a job. He wants to live off others even though he's soon to be 22. Honey, do you want an anchor who will leech off you while he is saying how much he loves you and needs you. He needs you for his own selfish needs. What does he contribute to your relationship, other then words?
Have some respect for yourself, honey, you deserve to be treated better. good luck
Hey Jenn,
I'm kinda in a similar situation but was never engaged. Weve been dating 3 yrs and living with eachother for 2 of them. Lately he has been pulling away and I'm thinking he's going to move out but hasn't. Last night he slept at his brothers house...I couln't sleep. I can't eat anything....which is stupid cuz guys treat girls like crap all the time and were supposed to be strong but how can we. When in the back of our minds we only want them.. I think if you still love him and want to be with him, say that you are together but just not living together. Your still in the relationship but you each have your own space for now...how old are you and can you tell me a little more about the situation???
Casey
So my ex and I dated for 3 years lived together for 2. We have been broken up for 1.5 years. It was a mutual brk up. I moved 2 hours away about a year ago and often go back home and visit. We did keep in touch for the first year then
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im 18 and the andrew is 21 soon to be 22 he is the one i was currently engaged too..yea thats sounds like me and andrew to clear it up i was engaged to andrew not christian, christian was a guy i dated about 2 to 3 years back but we still talk every now and then...Me and andrew had a really great relationship when we first got together we were always supportive of eachother in everyway possible and we were always together everyone says we were joined at the hip we were like peanut butter and jelly we have broken it off about 6 times been living together about 7 months now and 3 of the times we split while we were living together...it was really something we were new at..he left me about a week ago and moved in with his brother we still talk and he said the reason he left was because i wouldn't open up to him like i use too..but lately i have changed and started expressing my feelings alot more..and things are getting better now that we both are getting to know our selves..i told him that i need to learn to love myself again before i can love him like he wants...i went and spent the night with him last night and we talked and he said you know what i want from you and i said what and he said i want the old jenn back and i said and whos that the all go lucky happy girl..he said yes and i said i have growin up alot in the past year and im not the same girl between stress and everything else im not going to be the same girl...and i know where your coming from as far as not being able to eat or sleep im so familiar with the situation....the best advice i can give you is talk to him about it..if you really want to make it work and if he says he wants space the best thing you can do is give it to him although it will be hard wait about a week and then maybe ask if he wants to come stay with you a night or so..thats what i do and it really works alot better that way for now....that way your not in eachothers hair all the time and you both have your own space for the time being how old are you two again??? well i really hope things work out and if you need anything im here for you... men and women both have there roles in treating eachother like crap thats just how it is but if its meant to be things will work out and maybe he needs his space...at first you will be torn apart and goin crazy and not want to do anything but wonder what you did wrong..but all you can do is sit back and give it time...thats the situation im in right now...so i can really really relate but like i said just talk to him about it if he still desides he wants to move out for now then say ok i understand well i hope this helps atleast a little bit sincerley browneyedbabi