Is it ok???

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Registered: 10-03-2003
Is it ok???
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Wed, 04-07-2004 - 11:16am
Hi everyone, just a quick question. Is it ok when my boyfriend goes out to "find some girls to grind all over and make him lose it" well dancing with other women? He is going to Vegas next week with his buddies for like 5 days and this type of behavior will be going on at all the clubs. I do not want to forbid him from dancing but the thought of him having some chics ass all over him on the dance floor kind of makes me queasy!!! Plus what happens if it leads to more, like her asking if he wants to come back to her hotel room and blah blah blah!! I would appreciate any of your views on your b/f's or husbands going out to the clubs and dancing with other women. Is it normal acceptable behavior??

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Registered: 01-05-2004
In reply to: tigress1126
Wed, 04-07-2004 - 3:32pm
I'm pretty liberal, and I have to say that that kind of "dancing" is where I'd draw the line. So, naturally I can understand your discomfort with the situation.

Think of it this way, would you be upset if he was all over a girl like that minus the dancing? That kind of "dancing" is essentially dry humping, which is nothing but sex with clothes on. With the exception of swingers and a few other individuals, I think we all get the uh-oh feeling from thinking of our SOs that way with someone else.

Ivy

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: tigress1126
Wed, 04-07-2004 - 5:07pm

That sounds to me like a lap dance at a strip club, not dancing in a night club.


In any event, you need to talk to him and ask him *exactly* what he meant, and discuss what your boundaries are.


Sheri

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Registered: 05-29-2003
In reply to: tigress1126
Wed, 04-07-2004 - 9:59pm
Tigress, I left a post for you on "Problem Solving for Couples."

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