Is it okay to have some doubts?

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Registered: 01-26-2004
Is it okay to have some doubts?
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Wed, 07-21-2004 - 10:57am
If someone is going through a tough time in a relationship (a lot of outside stresses such as work, school, family, etc.), is it normal to have some doubts about the relationship? I always felt that if there were any doubts, it meant that the couple wasn't meant to be. But I love my boyfriend very much, and I have had the best time of my life with him, the only thing is I'm having some little, minor doubts about whether I want to spend the rest of my life with him. It's still too early to have to make that decision, but is having doubts okay?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-21-2004 - 12:13pm

Doubts are absolutely natural and do not mean that there is something wrong with the relationship. We all doubt - this is simply the questioning or exploring process of the mind trying to understand who the person we are with really is, who we are and how the relationship meets both our needs. Even in a very happy marriage doubts arise. People change, and sometimes we wonder if we've made the right choice. Do not let your duobts frighten you. Just realize that it is natural and healthy to explore your feelings and to explore the relationship. The best way to find out if you're both really suited is to communicate openly with one another about what's going on between you and inside you and how you really feel. A relationship based upon open, honest communication and sharing is built upon a strong foundation.


Good wishes.