Is it over??

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Registered: 10-20-2005
Is it over??
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Tue, 03-18-2008 - 8:54pm
We've know each other for a few years, but only said "hi" or whatever. He's a trainer at my gym. Anyway....we started dating about 6 weeks ago. We would usually go out on Friday night because he has his kids on Saturday night and Sunday. He also has an ex wife :-) So I'd also see him at the gym a couple times a week too. He would text me every morning when I woke up like clockwork, call me when I got to work, and text me throughout the day and call me at lunch. I liked it! I knew he was thinking about me a lot just like I was thinking about him. He would tell me things like how much he missed me and cared about me and how much I made him smile. He bought me a dozen roses for V Day after we had only been dating for a week! He would even come to see me at my house if he had just a little time in between clients at the gym :-) So anyway....a week ago last Friday is when everything changed. We went to dinner at a very expensive restaurant and he told me he wasn't feeling well after so he took me home. The next day he had to work and then he took his son to a b day party. He texted me a couple times, but not as much as usual. Didn't hear anything from him really until that night when he called me and told me he still wasn't feeling great and he was very tired and going to bed. I was already going out that night which he knew. Didn't hear from him much on Sunday except for a text or two. Didn't see him again until Wednesday at the gym. He said "hey what's up" to me. That's it. I knew something was wrong. He was acting weird He didn't say anything else, so I later asked him what was wrong. He told me it has nothing to do with me. He's under a lot of stress at work and with the kids and he has no time for him. He never gets any time for himself, because he's always being pulled in all different directions. He was acting really defensive...almost mad...not at me really though. So I said fine I'll back off. The next night, we were supposed to go to a baseball game. He texted me and said you're going to hate me, but I'm not going to the game, I've had a crappy day and I just want to go home. I'm sorry....I'll call you... Guess what...he still hasn't called 5 days later. A couple weeks ago, we were talking about going on a cruise in July.....now this!!! What is going on??
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: danae27
Tue, 03-18-2008 - 11:32pm

Welcome to the board danae27,


Sounds like it is over. Sorry.

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Registered: 10-20-2005
In reply to: danae27
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 6:39pm

Could it be that he's not divorced yet??

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: danae27
Fri, 03-21-2008 - 2:15pm

Sometimes when things develop too fast, they blow up that way too. Clearly, this guy is unstable. He has strong feelings for a little while, but they don't last. Don't blame yourself for this. Be glad you found out about him early on and move on. Obviously there are many issues in his life (with his child perhaps and also his ex) that he hasn't fully worked through. Wish him well and move on.


Best wishes,

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Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: danae27
Fri, 03-21-2008 - 2:31pm

Welcome to the board danae27,


In cases like this it is really hard to know what is going on in the other persons head. But whatever did happen, it does seem like he has checked out of the relationship. You may never really know what when wrong. Sorry.

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Registered: 02-10-2008
In reply to: danae27
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 5:17pm

Hi Danae,


Wow it sounds eerily like what I am sitting here bawling my eyes out over . .