is it over or is there hope
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is it over or is there hope
| Wed, 12-05-2007 - 7:45am |
I have posted about my situation before when everything first started back in November. There have been two e-mails sent recently to one of my friends. I am curious if it sounds like it is over or if there is hope.

s174153,
How sad that Bethany is being betrayed by Andy by sharing the emails with you.
I don't know how you would think there is any hope here.
In the first one she's concerned for you as a FRIEND would be.
"How sad that Bethany is being betrayed by Andy by sharing the emails with you."
I agree. That was the first thing I thought when I read the post.
You two need to keep your conversations between the people with whom they were intended. Something that was Emailed PRIVATELY to another person cannot be used as a "case" for or against getting back together with you. You really need to go on what she's telling YOU, not what she's talking to other people about.
Furthermore... She obviously doesn't want this to end in a matchmaking session. I don't know how you possibly could have drawn "maybe she still wants to get back together with me" from her basically saying "I don't want to get back together with him"
It's time to start the grieving process, as itwinflame suggests, and move on to accepting that it's over.
Not sure how you got those emails, why would you disrespect each other that way?
To be honest she's stringing you along. She loves keeping your hopes up, it makes her feel good about herself and it gets you to continue showing interest in her. It's a really nice ego boost for her, whether she intends it to be malicious toward you or not. She probably doesn't intend to hurt you but she's stringing you along because right now, her feelings are most important to her.
You should say to her, "listen I can't do this anymore, I'm sorry but I need time to get over this" and cut off contact with her. For good.
The problem you'll have at this point is stopping yourself from responding to her when she says she wants you back, or continually calls/Emails you. Because she probably will - that's the typical response from someone who just realized that the guy she broke up with is finally moving on from her.