Is it possible??

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Registered: 01-04-2007
Is it possible??
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Fri, 11-09-2007 - 12:00am

My significant other and I have been together almost 2 years. We have a child 2gether with another one the way. I know we love one another but not so sure about being "in-love" anymore. We argue constantly and say mean things when angry. It just seems as though we longer respect eachother as we should. So my question is, is it possible to bring mutual respect back in the relationship??? Or should we just go our seperate ways? THANKS!


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Registered: 02-20-2007
In reply to: tamx0x0
Fri, 11-09-2007 - 7:17am
If you have children together and there's no blatant abuse, have you considered couples counseling? You deserve to give your relationship a shot.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: tamx0x0
Fri, 11-09-2007 - 12:15pm

It is natural in a relationship for anger, upset and other conflicts to arise. And, all relationships, need time, attention and for the couple to stop and communicate with each other, to work things out. You are both being nasty to each other because you are not taking the time to truly listen to, respect and work with one another, to honor each others needs and wants. Leaving and running somewhere else will not help either. Whatever your style is in one relationship repeats itself in another, unless you have worked the patterns out.


It certainly is worth the time and effort to sit down and work things through...get some help if you need it. Once you have more understanding of yourself and each other and how to make a relationship grow, you will then be able to have good relationships no matter with who.


Best wishes,

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: tamx0x0
Fri, 11-09-2007 - 1:27pm

Welcome to the board tamx0x0,


Here's some reading material to consider:


Relationship Rescue, Phil McGraw
Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman
A Couple's Guide to Communication, John Mordechai Gottman


Ten Rules for Fighting Fair

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Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: tamx0x0
Fri, 11-09-2007 - 4:16pm

Welcome to the board tamx0x0,


Do you know why you do longer respect each other?


I would think you could work through this if both of you are willing to try.

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