is it real love?

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Registered: 07-21-2004
is it real love?
Wed, 07-21-2004 - 10:54pm
met this guy (Guy B) through a friend of mine around April..I had liked his friend, (Guy A) and he liked me, but on a different level. I am the kind to want to love somebody and expect that in return...I talked to Guy B and we had so much in common, and the way we looked at life. I started having feelings for him, but I ignored them, and I told myself that they weren't real. I constantly found myself wanting to talk to him, I looked forward to meeting him. We spoke for hours into the night about random stuff, and I started caring for him more and more. He talked to me about my feelings for Guy A...and he comforted me when I was sad about something, a lot better than Guy A would. Anyway, 2 months later, I was banned to talk to him from my parents because Guy A and Guy B were friends and my parents did not like Guy A at all, so they assumed Guy B was bad too....Around mid June I had run into him at school, and we started talking again...I finally told him my feelings, because over the summer I had dreams of him. One that had me buttoning a child's coat, with him standing behind the child, and I was conversing w/ him about something and smiling... he had had dreams of me too he said...He told me that hes had feelings for me too. I really love him and he loves me too. Does it sound real? or is it just that we have "fallen in love" because he helped me with Guy A and I found it comforting to talk to him. We talk about the future, having kids, etc. We are both 19, turning 20 this winter. Anyway...another problem is that we are of different ethnic backgrounds. In my family, a lot of my relatives have married out of race, so I am exposed to it. But I was reading online how interracial relationships/marriages are very difficult and I started worrying. anyways, if you could please reply to this, what u think, my question is A) does it sound like the real thing and B) how difficult are interracial marriages?

Thanks a lot

-sweetinlove