Is It Really Me???

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Registered: 07-05-2004
Is It Really Me???
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Mon, 07-05-2004 - 5:06pm
We met four months ago. A month into it he tells me he's not going to fall in love again, he's never going to live with anyone again and he's never going to be in a committed relationship again. A month and a half later I get my own drawer and a key to his house. He says he really likes me and doesn't know what to do about it. Without realizing it, he is 100% committed to me. He sleeps better with me in his arms. Says he would never cheat on me because he knows what it feels like and would never inflict that pain on me. 3 weeks ago he takes me to his church so I can understand his beliefs (conservative christian). The entire church pretty much gathered around me, he's obviously never brought anyone around before.

Last Friday he broke up with me because I got jealous. He told me he's blown off my controlling tendencies before and he won't tolerate it anymore. He says I don't control him now, but he knows I will end up trying to. HELLO!!! Why didn't he clue me in on the fact of what I was doing this??? Because of my own securities I know the times he's talking about, but why didn't he tell me it was slowly ruining our relationship? Did I take it for granted he would keep tolerating my insecurities?

I want to call him so bad. He leaves in a couple of days for the army reserves until the end of the month. I really need some input. I'ts killing me not to communicate with him. Am I missing something?????

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Mon, 07-05-2004 - 8:42pm
if you know the times hes talking about then you must have been aware of them when they happened. So why did you keep doing what ever you did? besides that, i dont understand why you would be with someone who in effect tried to push you away by telling you the things you claim he said. He is acting immature by having never discussed these problems with you before he just up and dumped you. He sounds like a bit of an emmotional basket case.
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Registered: 07-05-2004
Mon, 07-05-2004 - 8:47pm
Call him and tell him how you feel about the whole thing. I think boys balme things on girls so they don't have to admit when they are doing something wrong. It's like....I'm the man....I don't do anything wrong, my momma said so....So YOU must be wrong. What a crock. I say spill your beans. If he is really going to be all hoity-toity about it, then you dont want him anyways, you deserve better. Hope that helps.
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Registered: 07-05-2004
Tue, 07-06-2004 - 12:13pm
It does help, thanks. Now it's just getting the nerve.